Relationships. The most challenging area of our lives seems to be in this complicated, exciting and sometimes painful arena. When any relationship turns sour, often the first thing we want to do is to become actively engaged participants in “the blame game.”
What if instead, we resisted that game? What if we looked at our relationships as reflections of how we perceive our relationship with the universe? (Notice I didn’t say, “as a reflection of our relationship with the universe”, but rather, as our perception of that relationship.) What if every difficult tête-à-tête with a loved one or coworker was just a mirror of what we think the universe “thinks” of us? Here are a couple of examples:
Sharon perceives herself as a minuscule drop in the cosmos, powerless and stripped of a meaningful role. She believes that the God she was raised to believe in is too big, powerful and busy for her and is basically left to fend for her own. As a result, her manager, who she rebels against in passive aggressive ways, always seems too busy for her and doesn’t acknowledge her accomplishments. She also attracts coworkers who act bigger and more powerful than her and finds herself in almost constant conflict.
Curt sees himself as a victim; his life is filled with unfortunate mishaps. Though he believes in a God and tries to enrich his spirituality by attending church and volunteering, he perceives his relationship with God as one-sided. To Curt, God is “unavailable”. As a result, his personal relationships are riddled with people who do not reciprocate, communicate or commit – and leave him feeling “less than”.
If all success begins at the source, then do we stand a chance at having more joyful encounters if we create a good relationship with the universe? When we do that, when we start listening, cooperating and paying attention to that relationship, (often letting go of what we “think” we know), then communication channels open up. Then your relationships either fall away because they no longer fit who you are or they will change for the better to support you!
What is your perception of your relationship with the universe?
For years, Susan Kramer has been my herbolist. She is an amazing healer and has supported me through many journeys in my life. One of my favorite things about going to see her, is picking a card from her Angelic Messenger Cards. The card I drew always shared the perfect message at the perfect time. I have wanted a deck of my own for a long time. Wishes, big and small, do come true. My deck arrived last week. I gazed at the box for a few days before I dug into the juicy contents.
I picked my first card from the crisp, new deck I opened my eyes to the beauty of the abundance card! Yet another wink from the Universe that I was on the path that leads me all that I desire. The card pointed me to uncover what abundance actually meant to me. I have been sitting with that question - it is fascinating the answers that come when I ponder with an inquiry like that.
I recently experienced the power of intention that led to an abundance of material things. I was invited to a fundraiser for the Winship Patience Assistance Program. One of the things they were doing to raise money was raffling off an IPad. I wanted that IPad and I got that IPad. I savored the joy, abundance and delight–and then it was gone.
Abundance can show up in things. But things are just things. I am curious about sustainable abundance. I trust that I can have all that I desire, yet what is it I really desire. The stuff makes me happy…for a minute.
I am getting a sense that the abundance I desire all stems from the love word…an abundance of love for myself, leads to an abundance of love for others. More love=more connection. More connection brings the opportunity to be in the moment. Being in the moment leads to an abundance of time. I like where this is going. Better than any abundance app on the IPad. Or am I on to something…..
It’s wise to remember that the same awe-inspiring infinite intelligence of the universe that created us and everything around us is also ready to guide us to our most joyful life. All we have to remember is to ask, listen and trust.
ASK. Pose a question just before meditation, during a quiet walk or as you are falling asleep. It could be as simple as, “What can I do to experience more joy?”
LISTEN. Your guidance may come as a still, small voice in your head, disguised as a friend’s suggestion, as a synchronicity, or perhaps an image.
TRUST. We live in an instant gratification world. You may not receive guidance right away. Be patient. When we let go of the details and the illusion of control, miracles happen. And so it is.