In 1990, at the age of 16, I was involved in a single car accident in which I lost control of my vehicle going 80 miles per hour. While taking a left hand turn, the car’s rear end lost traction and I went into a skid. Being an inexperienced driver, my first reaction was to turn stronger into the turn. That was a big mistake!
The car spun harder and ended up skidding sideways onto a grassy median. The car came to a crashing halt when it slammed into, knocked over and wrapped itself around a light pole. The impact knocked the moon roof off the car, pushed the glove compartment all the way to the middle console and smashed the steering wheel up against the driver’s seat. I should have been crushed, but I can actually remember somehow, perhaps by the aid of an angel, crawling out of the car through the displaced moon roof, looking back at my Mom’s demolished car and deliriously repeating, “I gotta get this fixed!”
It was moments later that I first noticed the intense pain in my chest and I had to lay down on the ground. Someone who lived close by and heard the sound of crushing metal was the first to arrive on the scene and discover me lying next to the vehicle. She asked if I was okay, told me help was on the way and asked for my parents contact information.
I was transported to the hospital where I stayed for five days. I spent two days in I.C.U. as the primary concern was my heart that lay bruised behind my broken sternum and displaced ribs. I have never experienced that amount of pain before or since!
When I was released from the hospital, I essentially spent three months on a lazy boy because I could not lie flat. I couldn’t move, heck, I could breathe without excruciating pain. Laughing was not possible and if I felt a sneeze coming on I would have tears roll down my cheeks before actually sneezing because I knew the incredible amount of pain I was about to experience. Even heavy narcotics couldn’t come close to taming the pain.
When I had to go back to school (because they only let my grades carry over for one quarter), I wondered how I was going to make it through the day as my struggles to move without tremendous pain were still very real and apparent. My mother hated seeing me like that and decided to take me to a chiropractor, which I knew nothing about. That visit and all the subsequent visits changed me and my life for the better.
I started to finally recover from my injuries AND I discovered a new passion – a desire to help people in the same manner. Even though my knowledge of what a chiropractor was and what they did was still limited, I knew right then and there that I was meant to be one.
I had no way of knowing that while I lay there all those months in agony that I would end up here. I am grateful to be alive and feel blessed to have an understanding of true suffering. I enjoy my life’s work and enjoy going to work every day. I feel privileged to serve people and help them in the same manner I was helped all those years ago.
All of us are going to have some dark moments in our lives. While I know how challenging it is to go through those difficult moments, you must keep the faith that it too shall pass. In the end it just might be the start of some incredible blessing.
I am enjoying time in Northern CA this week. I assisted the Passion Test certification training in San Francisco last weekend, which was the start of my magical journey. That work is so transformational-I am honored to take people through the Passion Test process of clarifying what is most important to them in their life.
I came to Sebastopol to spend the rest of the week with my family. One things that we do each year I come here, is to visit a hot springs. This year we went to Vichy Hot Springs in Ukiah, CA. The mineral baths there are over 150 years old. It was a very relaxing couple of days.
I did an amazing 2.5 hour bicycle ride through the vineyards up there. As I was heading home, I came to The City of 10,000 Buddhas. Needless to say, I had to stop. It was exquisite. It is a Buddhist temple and retreat center. I rode around for a bit, until I came across a peacock in all of its glory. You met him in the photo at the beginning of this post.
My #1 passion is to stand in my power, while being connected to my heart. I believe that this is what the peacock was doing. This experience called me to share these words with you–a reminder for all of us:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
Go and let your light shine, and shake your tail feathers while you are at it!
I love adventures and surprises! Especially when I am the one organizing the moments of delight. There is something about knowing that I am part of creating an experience that will make someone happy, that raises my Joy Factor. I have hosted many surprise parties, taken Matt on surprise trips and left unexpected goodies for people to find. I love to give gifts for no reason, as well as for special occasions. The surprises can be large or small – it does not matter. What is important is that I enjoy the process of doing it and that the recipient(s) enjoy the process of receiving.
This past weekend, I had an opportunity to do just that. When making plans with Art and Robin to get together on Saturday, I asked them if they wanted to go on an adventure. They were up for it and the fun began for all of us. Over the next few days, emails went back and forth with a few questions from Robin to asssure she was prepared, so she could enjoy the adventure to the utmost. Questions like, what should I wear (very important question regarding the cute factor), should she bring bug spray, another good one for a July evening and cash or credit? Once those were answered, they were open and ready for what the evening entailed. Anticipation was present for all of us.
Saturday came, and off we went to Smyrna-yes, outside the perimeter people, to have dinner and see a show. Not just any show- we spent the evening watching Van Heinekien, a Van Halen cover band. It was a blast! We laughed and reminisced about the past and our Van Halen experiences.
As “David Lee Roth” sang about Beautiful Girls and Dancing in the Streets, I sat back and relished the joy that was happening not only at our table, but in the room. The show was fun, and the journey that got us there added to the experience.
How can a little anticipation bring more joy into your life?
It is amazing to me where gifts of wisdom show up in our life. It could be on the road, at the gym or even in the shower!
For the past 5 years or so, I choose a theme at the beginning of the year. This concept works best for me, better than resolutions-imagine that! I think of my theme as a touchstone for what I want to create this year. I love touchstones-I have quite a few of them. As an earth sign, they keep me focused and grounded.
This year my theme is Allowing. The essence of Allowing for me, is to keep my Joy Factor high, receiving what it is I desire in my life. In order to do this, I focus on loving myself and others unconditionally. I put my attention on the qualities that are present in the people I care about, not what is missing in them. It is a fun game that I get to play each and every day! Most days I do really well. Some days I have to roll the dice again. I am enjoying the journey, knowing that I am paving the way for more yummy things to show up each and every day.
When I go to spin class, I pay attention to my body in class. What reminds me to pay attention is watching other people. Today I was directly across from a woman that was clearly struggling through the session. I could feel her fighting her body to get it to do what she wanted it to do. I sent her some of my allowing energy. When I did that, it came right back to me. I felt my body release and get into the groove of the uphill journey. What was feeling hard, all of a sudden felt easier.
What is the point in working hard to get the results we want? Unless you really want to work hard, then go for it. Self-Care is about taking care of the self, for the sake of feeling good. Work easy, that is more in alignment with this component of The Joy Factor. When you can raise your Joy Factor, then you attract with ease-yummy!
How many times do we struggle along, because we forget to allow? Because we forget to give up resisting and just go with the flow. I take this reminder with me through today and days to come. One smooth pedal stroke at a time, will get us up the hill, so we can first enjoy the view and then cruise down for a bit.
Enjoy the ride of allowing my friends-I am off to the shower-what will show up there?
It’s 2010-here we grow again! I was just informed that in the
Chinese calendar, it is the Year of the Tiger. Guess what? I am a Tiger–here me roar!! I am just learning what this means and how to use this information to maximize my year. There are 2 things that stand about what I read. Tigers are instilled with a sense of courage; we like taking risks and enjoy all things exciting. We also take pride in being different from others.
These qualities speak to who I am and support me in raising my Joy Factor! Yes, it is the year of the tiger; more importantly, it is the year of the Joy Factor. The year that my attention and focus is fully put on supporting myself and others in increasing their optimism. This will allow you to attract all that you desire and live a life that you love. Will this take courage? Yes! Will it entail taking risks? Yes! Excitement? Originality? I am writing a book, I think that speaks to all of those qualities-Perfect!
It also speaks to the components of the Joy Factor. Authentic Expression, Connection to Purpose, Self Care and Strategic Optimism. It is not just for Tigers. These components are designed to support everyone in feeling good, raising vibrations, to be in alignment with Source. When we are in alignment with Source, our valve is open and we are ready to receive. Feel good baby, that’s what this is all about. Is this the year that you consciously raise your Joy Factor? Taking it to the next level so you attract more, more, more?
My intention for the blog this year is two fold. One is to open it up to the public-yes, we are getting ready to break out of our cocoon to share this information with the world. Second is to increase the resources and information that will come your way.
The past 6 weeks or so have been full of travel. I have had the opportunity to spend a week at the beach with Matt and his family and 2 weeks out west with my friends and family. I am so grateful that I had vision to create a life where I can enjoy work and play all together, whether at home or in someone else’s home. When I was leaving Seattle last week, my friend said something like, ….it is time to get back to reality. My response to her was, no, this is my reality. Traveling to different cities is part of what brings me joy and part of my ideal life. Coming back to Atlanta is also part of what brings me joy. I love the life I have created here, especially when I can come home to a clean house! Because I am a conscious creator and I choose to honor my passions, I love the life I lead. I am even more clear about the power of being connected to my passions after spending a weekend with Chris and Janet Attwood, the authors of The Passion Test, in Seattle last month. Their work is amazing-The Passion Test is the one test you will never fail! If you are interested in taking The Passion Test, I would love to give it to you. I am offering 20 complimentary 1 on 1 sessions and will be hosting a free workshop at the end of August. Email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org, if you are interested in particitpating or have any questions. In the meantime, ponder this thought. You are a concious creator and you choose each and every day what you are creating as your reality. The seeds, or thoughts and visions you think today, will blossom as time moves on. I promise.
There are times when we think our connection to our purpose has to look or feel a certain way Some days I feel like it has to look very dressy; buttoned-up and prim and proper. Those days feel like they are going less with the flow; days that I feel like I have to make things happen. I am working on my projects and with my clients and it feels like work. The “shoulds” show up and I may do things that I really do not want to do, but feel like I should. No fun, less joy!
Other days, I feel like my connection to my purpose of supporting others in being the best they can be looks more funky and eclectic. Those days, I feel more creative, more juicy, as author Sark would say. Things seem to flow more. Those are the days that my Joy Factor is way up there and amazing things happen.
What is different about those days than the buttoned-up days? Those are the days that I let go of wondering about what other people think. That is one of my personal challenges; I let that get in the way of staying connected to my purpose and my authentic self. On this journey of increasing my Joy Factor, I like wearing my funky clothes and allowing magic to happen, in connection to my purpose. You?